By Don Dewsnap
 To improve something is to make it better. To make something better is to improve its quality. To improve a relationship, increase its quality.
What is quality in a relationship? Two simple words: confidence, and togetherness.
Confidence is not the same as trust. Trust is often based as much on hope as on reason, and is lost for small reasons or no reason at all. One instance of poor judgment can break a person's trust in another. Your guy goes to the track with his friends and loses the rent money. After that, you don't trust him with the rent money. So trust is far too fragile to base a relationship on.
Confidence is knowing he will be there, with his strengths and his weaknesses for sure, but there. The thing is, confidence works in both directions, or doesn't work at all. Fortunately, increasing confidence in one direction also increases it in the other. Which leads to the first simple step of improving a relationship: increase his/her confidence in you.
Improvements don't happen all at once: they are made up of
small steps in the right direction. Anyone can take these small steps to improve the confidence others have in him. By taking them, you automatically improve the quality of the relationship. Here are some of the small steps, some of the things you can do today, tomorrow, and every day.
Confidence is knowing she will be there, so her confidence in you is knowing you will be there. So be there. Physically, be where you say you will be when you say you will be. If she expects you to be home when she gets there, be there, or leave a note saying why you are not and when you will be back. It seems a small, almost unimportant, thing, but it is perhaps the most important of all in building confidence.
People are disappointed by many people every day. All you have to do is be the one person who almost never disappoints. It really is very easy. Just be there. This does not mean you are at her beck and call. It only means you are where you say you will be when you say you will be there. It's a goal to work toward, that anyone can get better at.
Togetherness is the other part of a relationship. Especially, being together and doing things together. No relationship will long survive fierce independence. Keep in mind, you don't give up your freedom in a relationship -- you add to it. Two people together are free to do far more than one person alone.
Togetherness grows not by demanding, but by offering. So here is the second simple step to improving a relationship: be willing to be together, even if sometimes it is not fun. Take it in small steps, perhaps by offering to go to the hardware store with him, or in the reverse, to go clothes shopping with her. Not only is this togetherness time, it is also a way to learn more about why he/she enjoys what it is you are doing with him/her.
As a practical exercise, to get you started, the next time she goes to the store, offer to go with her. The next time you go to the store, ask him if he would like to come, and tell him you would like his company. He/she may not want to, and that's okay. But keep offering, keep asking. When you do get a yes, make it a together trip, not one of you being "dragged along." Ask questions; let her show off her knowledge in an area you are not as familiar with. Make togetherness time a learning time. Mostly, you will be learning more about him/her.
Togetherness grows if you let it, but it grows even faster if you feed and water it. Learning more about his likes and dislikes, how he thinks, what he thinks about, how he acts in different situations, is the result of increased togetherness -- and also leads to increased togetherness. All of which leads to a stronger, longer relationship.
These two simple steps, being there without fail and doing things together, will all by themselves improve the quality of any normal relationship as you do them more and more.
Don Dewsnap has spent years studying quality and its principles and applications. Now he has put his knowledge into a readable, useable book: Anyone Can Improve His or Her Life: The Principles of Quality. Learn more about this book at Principles-of-Quality.com .
Relationship Dating Forge Through Online Social Utility
By Shellaine Enfesta
 One can imagine the excitement of going out with someone very dear and special to you. Sometimes though, relationship dating was made possible because of someone you meet through an online social utility networking site. Nowadays you can find a whole lot of social networking sites and dating sites all over the internet. But with an online social utility, you can meet and keep in touch with friends, coworkers, classmates, relatives and people around you. And a lot of relationships are forging through a friend or a classmates or even relatives that introduce you to someone who would eventually become your dating partner.
Anyone who would be going out with someone special on a first date will be very excited. And most of these people would be spending hours upon hours trying to think of a place to go. In fact, some people would find it very difficult to sleep because they are anxious as to where they can go. They will have that excited squishy feeling that sometimes they look like a fool greening from ear to ear. And no matter what they do they just cannot get it out of their system. Then you would start to be asking yourself; what is happening to me?
You should not be weary about what is happening to you because it is just normal. Relationship dating is really one of the most exciting things that can happen in our lives. And it will always light up your life even in the worst of time. The fact of the matter is, some people would be thinking or imagining what they can do and what they will be doing on their dates. The suspense and the waiting time can feel like you have been waiting for the longest time. But in reality, it is just hours ahead.
You simply cannot believe for a minute that what you have been imagining is finally becoming a reality. The reality that you would be actually dating that special someone has finally become a real date. But knowing someone and then go dating is sometimes a little bit evasive. For those who cannot find their dates through personal contact, they resort to online dating or through membership to an online social utility. These social utility networking sites can help them find that special someone through friends and classmates or relatives and people around you.
The very reason why relationship dating is very exciting is that it would feel like and adventure especially in the early stages of the relationship. This is the time for you to know about each other and find some middle ground and see where to fit yourself in his or her life. Simply put it is the discovery period for both of you and your date. This is where you will discover if he or she is egotistical self centered individual. Or he or she could be the almost perfect, sweet and tender loving person that you have been looking for.
Meeting and knowing someone through classmates and friends on an online social utility is very common nowadays. It is very easy because of the network of classmates, coworkers, friends, and the people around you. Through constant communication with your networks or groups and forums you may find that special someone. Thus, it connects you and keeps in touch with someone special and eventually may lead to a relationship dating.
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Choosing an Online Dating Service
By Robert Melkonyan
 Dating can be stressful, tiring, and emotionally draining. And to top it all off, you are often times left unsatisfied with the way all of you date nights progressed. But dating doesn't have t o be that way. The two largest problems with dating are that most individuals don't have the selection that they need to make an adequate search, and secondly, individuals don't prescreen candidates before going out on the date. This can prove to be night filled with no fun, and leave you feeling like it was a waste of time.
Today we have tools available to help us to improve our date life. Online dating sites have boomed in the last four years. And with that boom of these sites, we now have a new challenge: which site fits best with our needs. Experts agree that that a site should be at no cost to you. With the many choices available today you should not be paying for this service. You should also have adequate search options available on the site. For example: are you able to search by age? Can you specify which sex you are interested in?
Also you want to be able to view information about the candidates you locate on the site. Are you able to search their hobbies? You want to get an idea of what this person is like. Keep in mind, that while we hope these profiles are 100% honest, they may not always be. Review what the person likes and dislikes. You should get an overall positive or negative feeling about the person.
The site that you chose to use should also allow you to contact the one that you interested in. Sites can do this in many ways. They may allow the users to list their instant messenger service, their emails, or perhaps they have their own messaging service or email system. Either way, you need to be able to contact the profiles you are interested in and engage in conversation to determine whether this person is worthy of dating you. Also remember, they should be doing the same to you.
Make sure the site is easy to use, and navigation is a breeze. You don't want a site that confuses you, and you can't figure out how to get around the site easily. Many sites require monthly subscriptions, and don't let you know this until you have searched profiles and are ready to contact the other member. This is both sneaky and unnecessary.
Information about online love & relationship advice for this article was found by researching free online dating . Devil Called Love is a completely free dating service, with a simple, hassle free site and no sneaky subscriptions. Why pay to find love?
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